New ideas 

“Usually when we hear or read something new, we just compare it to our own ideas. If it is the same, we accept it and say that it is correct. If it is not, we say it is incorrect. In either case, we learn nothing.” 

Thich Nhat Hanh

ER Visit

As I sit here in the ER waiting for the doctors to figure out what’s wrong with my wife, I’m thankful to live in an area where there are good medical facilities with good staff that provide high quality care. Yes, the US has its issues with health care, but at this moment I feel very lucky to be in the place I am and that my wife is receiving the care she needs. 

Marriage 

Recently my wife and I have been talking a lot about our marriage. During these conversations it has become apparent that we have been growing apart for several years. 

I’ve known Amanda for 13 years and have been married to her for 9 of those years. We’ve had both good and bad times over the course of our relationship, but I assumed that we were in it for the long haul. Now it appears that there is an expiration date for our marriage and that date is not too far off.

I never thought this day would come, but now that it has, it doesn’t hurt nearly as much as I expected it to. Don’t get me wrong, it still hurts like hell, but I’m able to face the situation with more equanimity than I thought possible. 

Everything changes, given a long enough time scale, and relationships are no exception to that rule. Life will go on even after my marriage ends, and I will continue to change and evolve. As a friend of mine once said, “when things aren’t going well, sometimes a drastic change is needed.” I’m beginning to see the wisdom in that statement.

I’m sure I will have plenty more to say in the coming months and weeks as my relationship slowly disolves. For now, I’ll wrap it up.

Hate

“No one is born hating another person because of the colour of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”

–Nelson Mandela